Be the Upgrade

By human nature, we default in to looking outward, judging whether people we see before us are genuine, attractive, successful, and if they qualify to be on our level, but we often tend to forget how we view ourselves in a perspective from the outside looking in.

If we were to stumble upon ourselves on a dating app from the view of someone you admire, would you be impressed at what you see? What do you look for in a partner, do you hold those qualities for yourself too? Sometimes we don’t mean to but we tend to focus on searching the missing pieces of ourselves in others to “complete us” in filling a void of love and happiness, when we have the capability to craft those missing pieces for ourselves.

A lot of us fall victim under the co-dependency drug in efforts to maintain that high of love and acceptance we eventually become addicted to. Though, over time we get lost in keeping that high in which after it ends its peak, we’re left with our sober true self again, and just crave that feeling to come back.

Whether we’re in a commitment or not, lets challenge ourselves every day in being the person you want to date (better yet, marry), and cater to yourself not only materialistically, but positively feed our souls too. When we create a self we are proud of and love who we are inside and out, we’ll know where to source that feeling we all long for when we are in search for it. Any aspect you have of yourself that you find needs improvement, make time to work on it until you feel its accomplished. Be your own upgrade, because you’re the most important person you need to impress. When we are whole, we have a piece to share to those who come along in to our lives. It wouldn’t be fair to keep taking pieces from others when you yourself don’t have the same to offer yet.

Once we feel we can live in our truth and view ourselves as attractive, successful, and genuinely accept that we are more than enough, others with the same qualities and values will enter and surround our life too because familiar visions and goals are in the same horizon. There is no need for anyone’s validation, if we have already accepted ourselves. Instead, we have the ability to build connections off of what is already whole. The next time you find yourself quick to judge, really look in to if it is a reflecting piece of yourself you might be missing.

Details

Hoodie: (Helmut Lang) Love shopping menswear too for comfy pieces and since they are usually thicker in material, it’s also perfect for the cold season.

Jacket: (Zara) Have the best after season sales on coats, I usually stock up on them when they do.

Bag: (Longchamp) Always use my Le Pliage bags on rainy days.

Shoes: (Timberland) I find myself wearing the baby blue a lot as a neutral.

Hat: (Rolling Loud) Merch I picked up from when I went to Rolling Loud Bay Area (2019)

Amazing photography shots by AJ Dullas